So many of you have been taught that to worry is to care, to obsess over things is to be ‘responsible,’ to save and fix others is a display of compassion, and yet, there are higher ways to care, more truthful ways to be responsible, and ultimately more loving ways to show compassion.
When you worry, you are simply spinning your wheels and projecting negative energy out into the universe. You are focusing upon what you do not want to happen and therefore sending out a magnetic, although thankfully weak, signal to attract it. Your positive thoughts carry so much greater sway in your life. So instead of worrying, when you catch yourself worrying, stop, breathe, and take time to think -what is is I DO want to see happening in my future? You worry about not being able to pay the bills, for examples. Many of you waste so much of your precious life in this frame of mind, and yet how much more productive it is to simply do what you know to do and say a quick prayer, “Dear God who takes care of all things, the birds in the sky, the grasses, the flowers, indeed the entire universe, you know I have a bill to pay here and I am not sure how I am going to do it. Please guide me, provide me with resources, and allow me to learn any lessons I need to learn with grace and ease. Thank you. Amen.” Then, dear ones go about your day giving thanks for the abundance you have and replacing every worrisome thought with a feeling of peace. Imagine that peace if you must, but rather that than imagining dismal circumstances.
Suppose you worry about a child of yours. Instead of worry focus on seeing them happy, purposeful, feeling loved. When you look at them, look at them as if there is success inside of them and speak this way. In this fashion you contribute towards their confidence and well being rather than their lack of self esteem. We are not suggesting you put up with or enable bad behaviors. You can indeed put your foot down there, but do so with love, and with a suggestion that you see more in them than what they are currently displaying.
When you obsess and worry about whether or not you are doing everything in your power to make a goal happen, well dear ones, you aren’t giving God, your loving creator enough credit. Rather than anxiously spinning your wheels, sit, breathe, pray… “Dear God, I have done everything I know to do to achieve this goal. Let me know what is next when you feel it is right timing. Thank you.” Then go about your day, enjoy your life and wait for further guidance.
When you have an urge to save or fix someone, go within, pray. “Dear God, I want to help my friend/family member/etc. I want to help them out of their unpleasant circumstance. Guide me and let me know how I may truly be of service. If you want me to share resources with them, make my cup full enough to do so and let me do it with a glad heart. If you want me to share time with them, give me the time and make it enjoyable for both of us. If you want me to share advice, guide the words I speak. And if you want me to withdraw and allow them to learn, then please make it obvious to me that no other assistance is asked of me.” Then dear ones, check in with your heart and see what feels uplifting, pleasant, and enjoyable to do. When you give from love you give according to God’s dictates.
When you release yourself from worries, from false obligations, from obsessing, you allow God to work in your life. You allow God to guide you with grace and ease. You allow your life to move according in coordination with the entire universe. You stop acting independently and become part of a bigger picture – one in which you and your needs count, and one in which you are loved, cared for, and guided.
“©Ann Albers, www.visionsofheaven.com“