Original story written by Linda Eliasen at Quartz Two months ago, I quit my job at Dropbox because something was very wrong. I didn’t know what it was, but I knew that I was broken and that I just needed to go. I already look back at that girl like she’s someone else–like I’m watching …
I stumbled on this young YouTuber that my daughter follows called Connor Franta. He has a lot of good things to say about living an authentic life. Man, these millennials are way ahead of the curve. So much wisdom for such a young age. I wish someone would have given me this kind of advice …
Why a focus on giving is the key to true peace and prosperity for all. Heaven and Hell Once there was a man who died and when he got to the other side an angel greeted him. Soon they stood in an elevator with only two buttons; One for hell and the other for heaven. …
“It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for – and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing. It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool – for love – for …
I had just moved to Houston, Texas from Los Angeles. I had just discovered spiritual things, and was looking to switch from an ambitious “I have to be a success” path to more of a spiritual path, but I had no idea how to do that. I was still very much practical and was trying …
Two months ago, I quit my job at Dropbox because something was very wrong. I didn’t know what it was, but I knew that I was broken and that I just needed to go. I already look back at that girl like she’s someone else–like I’m watching a movie of myself.
Linda sits awkwardly in a conference room waiting to have an exit interview with her boss, fully aware of the wide eyes and crazed look on her face. “Oh man … they think I’ve totally lost it, don’t they. I mean I kind of have. Maybe I should move back to New York. I think I forgot to take a shower this morning. Yep. Definitely did. Maybe Berlin?” She stares blankly with a weird smile on her face, imagining every possibility in the world all at once. She looks haggard and broken.
I was a mess–but I also felt free for the first time in way too long. I hoped that feeling would still be there when I woke up the next morning with nowhere to go and nothing to do. My life had turned into a daunting, tangled ball of iPhone headphones, and I knew I needed a month just to deal with it.
For starters, I wrote a blog post about quitting my job and it got some attention. I heard from so many people with the same story. From junior designers getting their feet wet for the first time, all the way up to senior executives and newly-established millionaires who seemed to have it all. Everyone said the same thing : that they feel like they’re losing their souls by staying at their jobs, and yet they can’t find the courage to leave.
It was really fascinating to me — and almost a relief — to discover that no human being is immune to this phenomenon, no matter how large their paycheck or how ample their perks. The soul-sucking anxiety seems to get worse as you climb the ranks in Silicon Valley, if you aren’t climbing with the right people by your side and for the right reasons.
This is what my first month of being “unemployed” looked like:
It looks just like my Dropbox calendar would have looked. But instead of meetings and deadlines, it was now filled with “life stuff.” In two years, I hadn’t made the time for little things like the DMV. And I was having fun meeting strangers who wanted to share their stories. Being this busy was normal for me, so I kept it up for a while. It was my little calendar-shaped security blanket.
“If there’s lots of stuff on my calendar, that must mean I’m important and needed and busy making great things, right?” As it turns out, that wasn’t true. In between meetings and appointments, I would go on long hikes or drives by myself. It wasn’t long before the little orange dots on my calendar just felt like nuisances keeping me from freedom, so I stopped putting them there. I was my own project manager now, and I could just do that. And I needed to in order to deal with that ball of stress in my head that made me quit in the first place.
I couldn’t figure out the source of my stress while I was as busy as I was in my job. Stress is a really weird thing. When it’s happening to me, I know it’s happening, but I can’t see it with a birds-eye view. I can sometimes get perspective by going on vacation or drinking a few Negronis or running 10 miles at a time. But the only way to really figure things out was to give myself time. I couldn’t figure out the source of my stress while I was as busy as I was in my job. I had to go, if I was ever going to get my head straight.
I took a whole month to think about everything that I hadn’t had time for over the previous two years. I posted cool photos on Instagram to make it look like I was on some amazing adventure, but really I was just recalling every project I could have done better, every work relationship gone wrong, every weird email I misread and how inadequate I always felt in my job. I made time for all of those ugly and pointless thoughts. I cried a bunch. On some days I didn’t have the energy to move and I would just lay face-down on my couch. I felt all of those feelings right down to their core, and then I threw them all away. This process had great days and horrible days, and lasted about five weeks before I really started to feel like myself again.
I’m so glad I didn’t jump into another job. If I had, I would have been bringing all of that mess with me. I’m so glad I didn’t jump into another job. If I had, I would have been bringing all of that mess with me. I wouldn’t have the bird’s-eye view of my own life and I would have been tangling up the ball of headphones even further. I’m so glad that I gave myself time to breathe before making a huge decision about what I would commit to next. The scariest thing about not having a back-up plan turned out to be the best part–because my head feels 10 times lighter, and I feel far more focused than I have in a long time.
Where it all went wrong
I knew that my job was great in the beginning, and I knew that when it ended I was feeling like a complete mess. But I had no idea what happened in the middle. I think I figured out. This is a very simplified take on it.
I think that a tricky thing happens when a business grows incredibly fast. Any growth that isn’t slow and organic, but rather abrupt and hyperactive– it can make for a creeping separation between a company’s employees. There’s no time for casual small talk in the cafe anymore. There’s no banter, no down time, and no way to keep up with all the new faces coming in every day.
I have to care about the person on the other side of the conference table in order to do great work with them. Suddenly, it’s acceptable to just not have time for people. There’s no time to care about their life outside of the office, much less their life outside of the meeting you’re in with them. This was normal behavior in my environment. The people I was supposed to be building things with were too busy to care (and so was I).
But I have to care about the person on the other side of the conference table in order to do great work with them.
I know this about myself now — yay! For a while I thought that I just cared too much about the product or the work that I was doing, and it was just getting harder to get things done. But now I know that the work has nothing to do with it. It’s the way people treat each other when we don’t have time for each other. We’re short, we’re cold, we’re abrupt, we’re passive-aggressive. I didn’t like becoming one of those people, and I especially didn’t like working with them.
I said in my last post, “You will never figure out what’s right until you fix what you already know is inherently wrong.” So I’ve been doing that and simplifying the hell out of my life. That includes everything from breaking off relationships that weren’t good for me to ending bad habits like biting my nails. Recently I’ve even stopped consuming alcohol and sugar to help me keep this focus while I figure out what’s “right.”
The key has just been to slow everything down. It’s so hard at first, but it’s gotten easier every day. Now I’m freelancing with a few clients who are kind and wonderful and who care about what they’re doing. Turns out freelancing’s not so scary once you dive in. And while I don’t know what the new year will bring, I’m hopeful and happy, and I can’t wait to see what’s next.
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I stumbled on this young YouTuber that my daughter follows called Connor Franta. He has a lot of good things to say about living an authentic life. Man, these millennials are way ahead of the curve. So much wisdom for such a young age. I wish someone would have given me this kind of advice when I was their age.
Why a focus on giving is the key to true peace and prosperity for all.
Heaven and Hell Once there was a man who died and when he got to the other side an angel greeted him. Soon they stood in an elevator with only two buttons; One for hell and the other for heaven.
“Which one would you like to see first?” Asked the angel.
The man thought for a moment, “let’s check out hell first,” he said. The angel pressed the button, the elevator descended for what seemed like eternity but soon the doors opened to hell. What the man saw totally shocked him. In hell was this incredibly long table and on the table was the most incredible banquet he had ever seen! There were delicious looking meats, and fruits and dished that put earth meals completely to shame. But surrounding the table was an equally horrendous sight. Around the table were thousands of people all crying in complete agony. When the man looked closer he saw that the reason they were all crying was because the forks they had were longer than their arms and they couldn’t get the food into their mouths! “Get me out of here!” said the man, I can’t stand it! Take me to heaven! The angel obliged and soon the elevator was rising fast. Eventually it came to heaven, the bell rung and the doors opened. The man just stood there. He was too shocked to move. He couldn’t believe what he was seeing. In front of him was the same table as in hell with the same delicious banquet. Then he saw something that made him smile and laugh with total amazement. “Of course!” he shouted. When he looked around the table he saw the same amount of people but this time instead of cries of agony he heard cries of joy. The people had the same overly long forks too. But here there was one important difference — they were serving each other.
The problem that must be solved In the beginning man conquered man. If one group wanted something they just declared war, attacked and took it from another group. Eventually this balanced out and we reached a stalemate or global balance of power. Our current capitalistic economic system is the latest evolution of this type of thinking. The balance of power is still working itself out so that when two groups cannot easily conquer and dominate one another than they fall back into an uneasy truce and trade. But even in this uneasy peace the idea is still to attempt though “negotiations” and shrewd business tactics to gain the upper hand and “get” or “win” more than the other group.
Our society has fully embraced this way of thinking and now believes that if you give you will lose. That instead of giving you must take. So now we have a society where almost everyone is focused on taking, getting, capitalizing and taking advantage of everyone and everything around them. A society where almost everyone is constantly seeking more and more, with no real regard to the welfare of others, in a vain attempt to find peace and happiness. A society that values accumulating for the sake of accumulating. We have an economics of fear and scarcity and lack. It is based on the belief, no the reality of the belief, that there is not enough to go around and so that is our reality. Currently our corporations are the pinnacle of this belief system. They are the sum aggregate of everyone’s belief in lack.
Capitalism is based on this equation. Profit = sales- expenses. The idea as everyone knows is to reduce expenses as much as possible and increase sales as much as possible for maximum profit. Think about it in terms of expense being what is needed to produce the product or service to be sold or that expenses are what is needed to be given back to the world to produce the product or service. Another way of looking at it is that expenses are what is given. The capitalist wants to give the least amount he can to get as much as he can. And not just that, but to accumulate what he gets for the sake of accumulating. You have people and companies keeping score. Who has the most money? We don’t ask why? Why do we need this much money? It is just assumed that if you have more it’s better just by it’s very nature. So ten million is better than one million and one million is better than ten thousand etc. But, what we have to understand is that the accumulation of money without purpose is meaningless.
So people say, “Yeah, but if I had a billion dollars I could do so much good in the world.”
Well yes, that would be true but the question is, at what price? In fact, so much damage would have been caused by the unloving methods used to accumulate that sum as to far out weigh the philanthropical benefits of giving it away. To take money attained in an unloving manner and then to give it to a benevolent cause is insanity. The damage is already done. We call it “giving back” but why “take” in the first place? If we freely give our love in the beginning then there is nothing to give back. There will be no damage to repair.
We have created these machines, giant computers really, called corporations that now greedily consume everything in their path. Like a cancer on the planet, these machines will destroy us. Our corporations strip our plant of its natural resources and poison the environment. They, treat workers with disdain, virtually enslaving millions to lives of drudgery and death. Their cutthroat business tactics teach greed as the highest value. This is the price we pay, and to do this in the name of progress is wrong. This system cannot go on. If we understand the love energy dynamics involved we will see that what we have currently economically is a black hole. When what we need is a sun. What is a black hole? It is a negative sun, a star that is sucking in everything around it, even light. It is a taker, for the universe, a greedy capitalist. Where as a star, it is a lover. She gives of her light freely to the space around her asking nothing in return. Can you imagine the sun sending the earth a bill! A black hole, on the other hand, gives nothing and takes everything — the polar opposite. Unlike the sun, with a black hole, foreclosure and bankruptcy papers are always imminent! This analogy is not perfect but we get the idea. We want a system where we, and the institutions built from us are suns, givers of love, givers of life. Our corporations by their very nature are mechanizations of death. Their sole purpose is to suck the life out of everything they touch, yes, some of us do get something in return but in reality we all pay a price greater than any perceived benefit.
But as society we do not want to see this.
For example, look at the way many of our multinational corporations, of which we are all a part, operate in third world countries. They bribe corrupt government officials into giving them lucrative contracts that allow them to extract either natural resources or labor at grossly deflated prices. These resources are then processed in some form or fashion and then resold at a profit. The result is that many of the indigenous populations in these countries are in complete states of poverty while the multinational corporations their countries do business with post record profits. It’s still an adversarial relationship. It’s still conquering; only it’s done though the accepted practice of “global free market economics”.
The problem with this way of thinking is that the circle of love is broken. People are either afraid to give or they are afraid to receive because they don’t feel worthy. So what has happened is a serious short circuit. There are those who are directing as much energy as possible to themselves and the energy is not flowing out again. It’s just a straight line not a circle and it’s only flowing one way.
This cannot last, because capitalism is, by its very nature, ultimately about taking and conquering. It’s about giving the least to gain the most. And, therefore, it goes against the laws of love. It’s a system that constantly sells the lie that when it reaches its full efficiency everyone will be rich. That by working hard, everyone can be a millionaire. It’s a system that requires a permanent underclass, otherwise who will do the “low wage work”. It’s a system that requires us to prey on one another. To look at each other like meat to be hunted and consumed. It’s a system that requires us to look at each other constantly asking the question “What can I get from him?”
Therefore, in the long run it is not sustainable. If it continues in its current form and at it’s current pace it will break down like it has done during the great depressions, recessions and revolutions of the past. And, when it breaks down, not only will the societies that depend on it break down but, it’s also possible that the very life giving systems of our planet will break down too, threatening our very existence. (Did I hear someone say global warming.)
Capitalism has served us well, it has allowed us, with our competing selfish interests, to trade and interact with each other without killing each other. It works, to a limited degree, but we must not confuse the fact that capitalism works with the idea that it’s the only and best system for us, because it’s not. It is now time for us as a society to evolve and take our interactions to the next level, the level of love!
Right now one of the core beliefs in our society is that if we could only get more money, ideally a million dollars, than we will be happy and at peace and all of our problems would be solved. In other words, we have been taught that the way to heaven is to have a ton of money. This is simply not true. The way to heaven is to help one another with our gifts.
The other erroneous belief is that we have to work hard to make things happen. Struggle is only an indication of our separation from God, the true source of everything. When we work with God instead of against him we can accomplish much with no struggle.
The other erroneous belief is that we are separate from each other and it’s “everyman for himself”. Survival of the fittest. Winner takes all. That if we are to “make it,” we must lookout for ourselves and fight to the top of the hill. This is also wrong, no one got very far just by helping themselves. The societies that do progress in the long run are the ones where people help each other.
The other erroneous belief is that there is not enough to go around. This one is probably the most insidious as it causes us to turn against each other. The reality is there is plenty to go around but only if we learn to share our gifts with each other unconditionally.
So you have situations where even when people want to help they feel they cannot because “there is not enough” and if they do help they will lose what they do have. And then to make matters worse, there are those who take advantage of those with these beliefs to everyone’s detriment.
The root of all of these erroneous beliefs is a lack of understanding of the one true power in the universe and how it works… the power of love. Love goes in a circle. What goes out comes back. Every major religion talks about it. Give and you shall receive. Well this is literally true. Some believe that if they give only then will God reward them and others believe that if they give they will just get a good feeling of satisfaction. No, love is a much more potent power than that. When you give AND when you are willing to receive you complete the circle of love which is the circle of life. Look at life; all of it is a great circle of giving and receiving.
What love really is
Before we can talk about the economics of love we have to talk about what love really is. Love is way more than just the feeling you have towards your love ones. It is that and so much more. First of all love is the dynamic energy that is the fabric of the universe. It is the unifying energy that keeps everything together and everything working smoothly; From planets to machines, to systems, organizations, and people. Love is God. You are love, and your divinely inspired gifts are how you will express love into the world. Quality is love. Now the thing about love is that it follows some laws. Let’s call them the laws of love. One of the main ones is that love is a conscious living energy that wants to flow as unconditionally outward to help and heal as much as possible. That is it’s very essence. Love doesn’t need anything. Love wants to flow as freely as possible. When love flows as freely as possible this is called unconditional love, the most powerful type of love there is. Unfortunately, on an economic level, our society operates with conditional love. If we see our commercial transactions with one another as exchanges of love energy we can see that the conditions we place on these exchanges is a form of conditional love. This type of love is not as powerful as unconditional love, whether its personal relationships or business relationships.
Our gifts are our love to give What we have to understand is that our gifts are our love expressed here on earth. So if your gift is art or music or engineering and if this is what you love to do than this is your love. Now the thing is, in our society, when we have a gift the next thing we tend to think about is how to make a living with it. And, since we live in a capitalistic society that is all about getting, we tend to think “Ok how can I get with my gift.” “How can I make a living.” “How can I make money.” We don’t tend to think “how can I serve.” Yet this is the crucial difference. Since these gifts are born of love and composed of love their purpose is to help make the world better. Their purpose is to serve. So having these gifts makes us angels of love. We are here to serve others with our gifts. Our joy will come from letting this love flow as freely as possible not from our acquisition of material goods. Now I am not saying that we should not receive money for our gifts and I am not saying that we should not have material things. In fact these things will come faster the more freely we share our gifts with the world. Let it flow. We can sell our gifts but there is a better way that is more in alignment with the quality and essence of love. What we want to do is to be in alignment with this energy that is flowing though us. Love wants to be free so we must let it out.
We must give our gifts away.
We are all one We have to understand a basic law of the universe. Give and you shall receive. See the problem is we think we are disconnected from everyone else. So we feel that if we give to someone that we will lose something. But this is not true. See in truth we are all one. So in reality, true reality, if we give to another we are really giving to ourselves. The love will come back, it is the law, it has to. Now, there may be a delay and it may take time and it may come back in a different form and in a totally different way than we expect but the love that we put out will come back to us. This includes the love of our gift. So give it away and give it away as unconditionally as possible.
Ask for help To ask is the best way, but is not required. To ask is in alignment with the laws of love. Give unconditionally and then ask for what you need, or better yet just trust. We already see this in our societies with churches and other charities and non-profits. They are the way showers for this new kind of economics. Usually we see the asking done in the form of asking for a donation and this is ok. We can also ask for a suggested donation. That’s ok too, as long as the product or service being given is given no matter if a donation is made or not. Even when someone makes a big deal about the donation such as the preacher who says “A hundred, who has a hundred, a fifty who has a fifty.” This is infinitely better than charging money at the door. Their gift has flowed out and now they are asking for what they need and providing a vehicle for love to return to them in the form of donations.
It may not look practical but this is because we have been living in our current system for so long. In the economics of love system we give because we want to not because of slick marketing. No more buying a music cd, only to get home and discover that you don’t like it and then not being able to return it. No more tricks, coercion, deceptive sales tactics. Just honest giving and receiving with feelings of gratitude returned back as love. It’s a new way and it requires trust and faith. We have to go out on an edge. But most of all it requires faith in our fellow human beings, a faith that says they are for the most part good, and not evil. Our world has everything it needs right now at this very moment for every man woman and child to live an abundant and successful life. But because of the fears most people have no one wants to share and when we do share our gifts it’s through our conditional economic system called capitalism or the free market.
A beautiful feast Think of a family gathering. How is it organized? People call around and everyone agrees to bring something and it’s a beautiful feast, where everyone brings their love and shares their love. Now imagine if, instead of food, people brought all of their various gifts. And instead of a small family of 30 or 100 people it’s a family of thousands and millions. It’s no different. But no you say, someone would take advantage of the situation. Yes, some one might, but whenever one is sharing and there is plenty for all what is there to take advantage of? Try it? instead of charging a price for your product or service try giving it away free and asking for a donation instead. At first you might not appear to be getting rich monetarily but you will see the immediate results of others getting rich from your love. And, you will feel it because you will feel the love spreading out from you to others. It will come back to you. Just focus on giving. If you really get stuck ask for help. A loving circle of giving and loving is what we are trying to reveal here.
Freely share what you love to do
The love already exist inside each one of us but we just have the wrong configuration. Currently if our economy were like an electric circuit, it is very inefficient in it’s current configuration. With the economics of love it will be in its correct configuration and will work much more effectively. People will gravitate towards what they love to do, because no one will have to do what they don’t want to do. People will gladly share more because they will be doing what they love and by the very nature of that fact they will want to share their love as much as possible. So for example some one might love to garden and when they do the harvest people might come and ask for some of the bounty and they will be so glad to be able to share their creation with them. This is totally different than the way things are now where most people sweat and toil away in miserable professions that they hate or tolerate out of fear of survival. This is most of our plant. So of course in a situation like this people feel desperate. For example, if someone where to walk up and ask for some of the harvest from a farm where someone hates farming – You know, where the farmer had to toil long and hard and suffer a lot to bring about the crop. Or instead, where the farmer pays a bunch of poor desperate souls to toil long and hard and suffer to bring out the crop. Of course, in a cases like this, the farmer would feel resentful mad and angry . He might say something like, “No I can’t give you any! Don’t you know I had to work long and hard to make this food! Who are you to just walk in here and ask for it like that!” The farmer will feel that you have to do something just as hard as he did to earn the right to his work. Don’t we all feel like that sometimes? So this is the situation of our world, where we trade our misery and suffering. But, it need not be so. The economics of love can be a guide to a better world, a better way of living. The key here is love, and sharing and trust in God and in one another. Can we do that? Absolutely!
The Economics of Love You might be thinking, “Oh, how can love have anything to do with money.” But if we really only knew what love is. It is a powerful energy that guides and supports the entire universe. The universe is made with the threads of love. It is everywhere. And we are part of it. It is God, and it is us. Now it is time for us to learn to use love wisely and to grown up as a society. We are so much more than we realize. We are capable of so much right now, but, as a society, we are caged in fear. We must break free of the fear.
Let’s look at the positive side of the ledger. The economics of love. Let’s look at the same equation. Profit = sales – expenses. It looks the same right but what you have to understand is the critical difference is attitude. An attitude of giving. Lets call this the service model. In the service model which most of our non-profits exemplify now. The goal of expense is no longer that which is given back to make the products. But now is that which is needed to give more. Because the goal of the service organization is to give. So even though this organization may take in money for it’s expense. The sole purpose of these expense is to serve others as much as is possible. What we don’t understand as a society is that this is the better way. Currently we think that non profits and charities are the exceptions; Holes in the system taking care of things that the free enterprise system just doesn’t seem capable of handling. What we don’t understand is that we have it backwards. This system, the non-profit service model is capable of handling all of our problems and more. It is the capitalist take all approach that will destroy our society and is causing the problems.
It is the attitude of giving that is the difference and it makes all the difference. Adam Smith really set us on the wrong course with his idea that people being as greedy as they can be, fighting and squabbling over so called scarce resources would produce the best out come. Yes it produces an outcome, short of all out war, but it is far from the best out come. There are better systems but unfortunately by time Adam smith came around the world was hopelessly heading down this dark economic road. What we have now is a system where no one really trust anyone else and where greed rules the day. It’s all about the winner taking all. Does this sound like anyway to live? No it isn’t. What if we had a family dinner but instead of a potluck we said that no one could sample anyone’s dish freely. They could only trade. It wouldn’t be a very fun dinner would it? This is the kind of family we have.
Lets talk about the bottom line. In a corporation or business the bottom line or profit is money. A business asks, “How much money did we accumulate? How much did we get? How much did we take?”
In the service model, although they too need money to operate they operate with a different bottom line. Let’s call it the high line. A line based on higher ideals, higher ideas, higher values, the high line of service. And, that line or profit is about how many people did we serve today, and how well did we serve them. It’s about, how much did we give, how much did we help. It is this attitude that is in alignment with the laws of love.
Love is all about service. Love needs nothing it just wants to go out into the world and help. That is it’s essence.
So let your love out, in the forms of your gifts and more, and we will all be so much richer for it.
We must heal the world with our love There are serious problems in our world that we are not aware of and we need to awaken to these problems. Many of us are asleep and do not even realize what is going on. On the one hand we have to awaken to our true potential to dream but on the other hand we have to awaken to the true reality of the negative situations we are in on this planet and are also helping create, only then can we start to change it. A slave can’t be free until he realizes he is a slave. As long as we think that the world around us is “just the way it is” or that it is good or that there is nothing that we can do about it, we will continue to live in bondage. This is very difficult to deal with and to understand fully. All that need happen though, is that we change our thoughts about what is possible. This society of ours is just one possibility out of an infinite realm of possibilities; it can be changed for the better. But we have to realize that it is possible for it to change and that we can help effect that change. One of the keys to this is having a better vision of what the world can become and realizing that our gifts are the love that will bring that vision into reality.
Examples of The Economics of Love in Action:
Amanda Palmer: She explains it so well. She really really gets it.
“Pay what you want restaurant”
By Martina Fuchs
LONDON (Reuters) – A London restaurant has decided to do away with bills for the next month, asking customers to pay only what they want for meals in an unorthodox bid to beat the credit crunch.
The Little Bay restaurant in central London, one of four owned by restaurateur Peter Ilic, will present diners with absolutely nothing when they ask for the cheque during February, leaving it up to them to decide what the meal was worth.
“Anything between a penny and 50 pounds ($70) will make me happy, it’s entirely up to the customer to decide,” Ilic said on Tuesday, sounding confident about the prospects as he sat on a purple couch is his brightly colored, arty restaurant, known for its bistro-style Mediterranean cuisine.
“It just seemed the right thing to do with everyone under the cash and feeling pretty miserable,” he said.
Times have not been easy for London restaurants in recent months as the credit crisis and a deepening recession have hit everyone, from ordinary city workers to highly paid bankers.
Whereas once high-flying hedge-fund managers from the London financial district known as the City might seek out the most ostentatiously expensive lunch they could find — and top London restaurants would willingly oblige — now the order of the day is austerity and a decent, tasty bargain.
Ilic, a long-standing player in the London restaurant business, is well-known for his value gourmet food, but now he’s gone one step further and effectively cut prices to zero.
“We have seen so many more City folk coming into the restaurant lately, looking for a better value lunch,” he said, explaining what gave him the idea, similar to that used by major bands like Radiohead to sell their CDs.
If people like something, they’ll pay for it, the idea goes, and already Ilic has seen evidence that it works.
“Customers have already paid 20 percent more than the original price,” he said, confident that he will more than cover his expenses for the month. “People want to be polite and would be embarrassed not to pay enough.”
Not only is the deal pretty attractive for those who might decide to pay nothing, the food is pretty tempting too.
Starters include crab tartelette, foie gras terrine and goat cheese souffle, while main courses range from duck breast to steamed butter-fish and filet steak.
The only thing customers definitely have to pay for are their drinks. But for those really suffering in the credit crisis, the tap water is served free.
Karma Kitchen uses the “Economics of Love” There, patrons receive free meals and can pay it forward via money or service for the next guest if they choose.
You Don’t Ask, You Just Give
In many parts of the world, people are searching for alternatives to the cash economy. In Mali, one of the most cash poor nations in the world, “Dama” or the “Gift Economy” has been thriving for thousands of years. This system of exchange is not based on exchange or equivalence between the giver and the receiver, rather the receiver passes the gift on to someone else. The gift economy celebrates the value of life, putting human relationship over profit.
Seva Cafe: Love All, Serve All
Seva, or service, is the selfless giving of oneself for the betterment of others and the world around. At Seva Cafe, the concept of service takes the form of a “pay it forward” restaurant, where every meal is cooked and served with love.
“It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for – and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing. It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool – for love – for your dreams – for the adventure of being alive.”
I had just moved to Houston, Texas from Los Angeles. I had just discovered spiritual things, and was looking to switch from an ambitious “I have to be a success” path to more of a spiritual path, but I had no idea how to do that. I was still very much practical and was trying to find a way to live a spiritual life and pay the bills at the same time. Anyway this struggle or search if you will went on for about 2 years. In the mean time I did computer programming contracts, I am a programmer by trade, and these contracts were a convenient way to earn some money in a flexible manner while I pursued this more spiritual life. At this point in time I still had no idea what my purpose was, what my real interest or inspirations were either. One of the problems with this life was the fact that I would only do the contract work when we needed money and then I would stop. So we kept having these boom and bust periods, which was getting kind of tiresome.
The thing that made it hard to deal with was the fact that if I wanted to I could have gotten a high paying job that would have taken care of all of our money problems. But seeing how Houston Texas is an oil and gas town I was really dreading the idea of having to wear a suit and tie to a 9 to 5 computer programming job every day. I just felt that it would be really hard to get in touch with my spirituality and or interests and live a balanced life doing that and I knew how some jobs could easily take 10 to 12 hours out of your day leaving you no time for anything else except sleeping and eating. Plus, most of my working life has been spent doing my own thing. I have had more businesses than jobs and am an entrepreneur by heart; it is just not in me to do the 9 to 5 thing. But things were getting desperate. And after a failed attempt to take my computer contracts and start a larger consulting firm I threw in the towel and decided to “oh no” – get a job! I remember it was a pretty clear decision. I decided that I wanted a job with a computer consulting firm figuring that at least there I would only work 9 to 5 versus the 10 hour days and weekends many software companies insist you work if you are a programmer. I also wanted something that I would not bring home with me. Programming work is mental work and lots of times you get stuck on problems and it stays in your head and permeates your being, even when you go home. I did not want that. I also decided that I wanted to earn a lot of money figuring that a lot of money would make it worth the hassle.
So as you can see I set a clear intention and was really clear about what I wanted, a significant point. It would be much later that I would realize the power of intention and knowing exactly what you want. I applied spiritual techniques like prayer and visualization to the problem. I prayed about it and I visualized in detail the exact job I wanted, the pay and other details. I then sent my resume out to every computer ad in the Sunday paper, and by the next week I had one company that was very interested in me. I met with them and without hardly any effort I got the job on Jan 18th 1999. And it was exactly what I had prayed for. Or so I thought.
The company I signed on with was a really prominent corporate IT consulting firm. A very formal place where you had to wear a shirt and tie and act business like. Coming from more informal software start-ups, I really did not like that kind of work environment but I figured I had to “hunker down” and do what it takes. I mean this is what I asked for right? I figured that if I just worked at least a year I could pay down all of our debts and we could get back on our feet. I could then take any extra money and invest it in some business ideas I had. If some of these ideas panned out maybe we could be on our way to being financially independent or partially anyway. Well it was hard, I mean the job was fairly easy but my heart was not in it from day one. But like I said, I just hunkered down and tolerated it figuring that’s what I had to do. How many of us feel like we have to hunker down like that and ignore our heart – it’s totally stupid. I kept going like this and then I started to notice all kinds of weird things starting to happen.
The Weird Things
The first thing that happened was that I was sent for training in Cleveland Ohio, this is significant in that most of my family lives in Ohio and it was almost exactly ten years since I had been there last. I knew this was no coincidence and that I was meant to go there for some reason. For some reason I end up in Cleveland every 10 years. Once I was there at the training another interesting thing happened. I was summoned to the phone in the middle of the training to find out that the company wanted to send me to Toronto Canada for my first assignment. I had never been to Toronto and had never given the place much thought but from that moment on it was like I was on a whirlwind. Everyone kept telling me how great and beautiful Toronto was. The thing was, I could not believe I didn’t know anything about such a popular place. How could I have missed it? Weird. Anyway the cool thing was that I was going to get some bonus travel money that when combined with my salary would almost double the amount of take home cash I would have. I decided to take the assignment immediately and also decided to bring my family along. That would be my wife, my 6 year old daughter and 1 year old son.
We arrived in Toronto and immediately we felt a change. We felt like we had been transported to a new and magical world. It was great, we had the time of our lives. I don’t think we will ever forget that trip. But all was not well in paradise. The assignment I was sent on was truly an assignment from hell. Canada and Toronto were nice but the assignment was horrible. To give you an idea of how bad it was, as soon as I arrived for work the first thing that happened is that I was introduced to these people. For the first minute we shook hands and exchanged pleasantries but immediately after, this one guy starts yelling at me that the system is down and has been down for the last week and that no one knows what is going on and why haven’t we fixed it yet and that they expect us to stay the night and have it fixed by the next day. I still had my computer on my shoulder and my coat on. I had been there no more than 5 minutes! I was in shock. I thought what the heck have I gotten myself into now? I said “well let me get situated and call my boss and find out what the situation is and I will get back to you.” Luckily I had an office so I could close the door. I made the call and luckily that situation was resolved. It turned out there was mega politics going on on several levels and unfortunately, as I was to find out later, my partner and I were the ‘guinea pigs.’ There were a few smooth days but basically that initial negative exchange set the tone for the assignment for the following 6 mos and it climaxed in the last 2 months.
Living it Up
In the meantime we really enjoyed our time in Canada, I did not even try to save any money figuring that you live only once and who knows when we would be in that situation again. So we spared no expense to do what we wanted. We traveled ate wherever we wanted, rented a nice furnished apartment and basically lived it up. It was the life except for one nagging problem, my job, and a big problem at that because it was not like I could just quit. This job that I hated more and more everyday was the source of the money that was allowing us to live high on the hog. But as the months wore on and we had seen every thing and pretty much done every thing there is to do in Toronto, the job was starting to take its toll. Around the fifth month I started to rethink the whole thing. The funny thing is I was so enamored by the whole situation that my spirituality had just gone completely out the window. I hadn’t read a single spiritual book or meditated or prayed since we got there. But things were getting nastier and nastier at my job. It was getting hard to deal with. Soon the stresses reached such a point that I was ready to just totally freak out.
Luckily, I remembered that I had some spiritual tools to help me deal and that this job was not my true source of happiness. The event that triggered this reawakening was, believe it or not, a movie on TV. It’s amazing how God decides to reach a person. The movie was Joan of arc. And although it may or may not have been an accurate portrayal of what happened, it didn’t matter. What mattered is that something in the movie moved me spiritually. I guess it was the way Joan seemed to be in touch with spiritual forces no matter how dire her situation, even as she was being burned at the stake. I was also impressed by her passion and dedication to her cause. For instance, She wasn’t distracted by things like money, fame or success. This movie moved me and got me rethinking about spiritual matters for the fist time in months. I felt moved to go to the bookstore and then started reading spiritual books again, books like the ‘Course in Miracles’ etc. I also started meditating again. It did not take long for these spiritual things to have an effect on me. My spiritual eyes reopened and it became painfully obvious that I was in the wrong situation and no amount of money was worth it. I started to remember being happier with much less money. Times when I had nothing more than rice and eggs to eat. Something had to give.
The Straw that Broke the Camels Back
One day while I was counting the hours the situation at work got really stressful. There were some problem with the system we were working on and several people were trying to pin the problem on my partner and me. Usually when things got that stressful I would just leave and go get some tea and take a walk. But this time I couldn’t leave because they had us calling in with some test results every 30 minutes. As the day went on, I was starting to really get stressed. By this time for political reasons, they had kicked my partner and me out of our nice office and we were in a small hallway working on little printer desks, not even real desks. So here I am scrunched up in this corner next to a door that everyone is coming and going out of every five minutes – bam – bam. There is mega fear in the office because of the situation and I can’t leave! I felt really trapped and I just wanted out of that situation so bad you could not believe. I came this close to just walking out and saying sayonara to the whole thing. I needed to escape and the only way I could think of in that moment was to just open my laptop, dive in and start writing…
What is Inspiration?
For some weird reason, which I don’t understand even to this day, I typed the words “What is inspiration?” into my laptop. I’m thinking “how the heck did I get in this mess, this whole job thing was a big mistake and this is the most uninspired situation I have ever been in!” Anyway to my amazement I knew the answer or somehow the answer came to me or through me. Immediately I started typing really fast and the answer to that question just flowed though my finders like water. It was really amazing. I am sure you know what I am talking about. It was a feeling like I had all this stuff inside that just had to get out. I could not type fast enough. I felt like I was going to burst! And when I was finished, I had written about a page of material. It was one of those situations where you are like “wow! I wrote that? Where did that come from?” We have all had those situations, right? But boy I had no idea that that one page would change the course of my life. Here’s what I wrote…
What does it mean to be Inspired?
“It means to trust your instincts and to move into that space that is interesting, fun and alive! Do what you feel inspired to do in any moment. Don’t feel like doing it, don’t. Feel like doing it, do! But there is a difference between doing something you feel inspired to do and doing something out of fear. Fear is the enemy. It is easy for fear to disguise itself as inspiration when our ego tells us that the only way to get something is to do something else. Then we feel like we must take a certain action because we think it is the ONLY way. But we cannot see the divine plan. The only thing you can do is to try not to do it all by yourself, don’t try to FIGURE it out. Let God’s creative spirit move you in the right direction. Think of life like a maze with many choices and dead ends, you can sit there and spend days analyzing the next best move, you can even study maze dynamics in college, but that does not mean you will finish the maze in the most efficient manner. God on the other hand, made the maze, knows its every detail and can see it from every angle; he can see the whole maze and its most efficient solution. So the thing to do is to ask God to show you the most efficient way out of the maze. And the way he does this is through inspiration. Inspiration is God’s creative energy moving though you, God using you, God playing you as the most beautiful musical instrument that you are. The goal is to let go and let God make beautiful music through you and the best way for that to happen is for you not to block his energy. When you feel fearful, that is an energy block, when you feel inspired then it flows.” – Aug 1999
There’s a lot more to this paragraph than you might realize. Definitely more than I realized at the time. And as crazy as it might seem, everything in that paragraph is totally true.
The Wakeup call
At first I thought wow that’s interesting and I sent it to a few friends via email and said “hey what do you think?” I got a little positive feed back. I read it a couple of times and thought, “wow it would be nice to be inspired like that.” But I had no real idea how to get started. I was still very much involved with my job. I mean it really intrigued me and appeared to be a door to somewhere but I was not sure where. But about 3 days later, at about 1am in the morning I was sitting on my bed with my laptop just goofing around, you know, checking emails, browsing some web sites etc and listing to some relaxing music. (A great way to induce inspiration I would later realize) Then without any plan or intention I opened the paragraph I had written a few days earlier and reread it because I thought it was kind of interesting.
Then a funny thing happened. Like I said, at the time I had no intention of writing a book. I just thought it was an interesting piece of writing. I mean, I never considered myself a writer and I have always hated English. I always thought writing was just words and grammar. As I read it again, when I got to the end, all of a sudden I felt a strong need to add more. I figured I would just add another paragraph or so, but as I got to the end of that paragraph I felt the desire to write another and another, soon my hands were flying again just like at work when I had written the first paragraph. I could not stop and I could not write enough. It was that same pregnant, ‘I can’t get it out fast enough,’ feeling. So I wrote and wrote and wrote and without stopping I wrote another 14 pages. Time stopped, I lost myself in what was coming though my fingers. It was amazing! I was being told the answers to all kinds of creative issues. Soon I stopped and looked at the time and it was 5 in the morning. I had been writing non-stop for 4 hours. But it felt like only 1 hour. When I looked once again I was amazed at what I wrote. I thought, “how did I know this? Where did this come from?” Everything I wrote just seemed to ring true. I felt I had finally been given the answers I had been seeking all my life about true creative freedom. Most of what I had written was totally different than what I had been taught about what one needed to do to be happy on this earth. It was only then after I read what I had written that I started to think “hey this could be a book!”
The Miracle Phone Call
Well that was all very interesting but things at work calmed down and soon the drug of good money and all it could buy made me start to forget how much I hated the job. “Hey maybe this job is not so bad after all. I mean, the money is pretty good. Look at how much fun we are having.” I told myself. So this went on for a few more days, maybe even weeks. But just when I was ready to give in to that thinking – bam! Another bad day at work.
I don’t remember the event but energetically it was a repeat of that last storm. Lots of fear, lot’s of stress. Lots of worried phone calls and people running to and fro talking about how the system is down and payments are on hold till it’s fixed. Who’s fault is it? Blah blah blah. The same ol’ drill. It all came back. Then I knew in my soul that I had had enough and no amount of money was worth this crap. I decided I didn’t’ care about the money and as much as I loved Canada I had to get out of that job assignment asap, the question was how? See the problem was I couldn’t just quit because we were in the middle of this big government project and if I quit it would have looked bad for my partner, my boss who got me the assignment and my company. I was really aware of how actions have consequences and I didn’t not want my action of quitting to hurt anyone.
Not knowing what to do, in the middle of that chaos I leaned my head against a brick wall near my desk and prayed. “God, please get me out of this situation right now!”
You would not believe what happened – I mean it was like something straight out of a sci-fi movie! Right at that moment the phone rang. It was surreal, like a phone call from heaven. I looked at the phone and as the chaos spun around it, I slowly walked over, slowly picked up the receiver and in a real curious but scared voice said “hello?” It was my boss from the consulting company I worked for who had placed me on this assignment. This lady was funny. On the surface she appeared to be real nice but the thing about her was that the more she praised you the worse the news was gonna be.
So she starts: “Will we love you, the client loves you guys, you’re doing an excellent job. We could not have asked for better,” blah blah blah, on and on she goes crescendoing to the climax. “but -”
long pause –
“We’re going to have to let one of you go.”
I could not believe my ears. Was I really hearing what I thought I was hearing? It was my chance, my one chance to escape and save face. I grabbed the opportunity faster than you could say “atchafalaya!”
“I’ll go.” I said as quickly as I could.
She was really shocked and surprised at how quickly I responded. Since this was such a golden assignment they were probably thinking it was going to be this painful thing of deciding who should go, me or my coworker Ling.
Once again as soon as I let God know exactly what I wanted, in this case, that I wanted out of this assignment, he made it happen. This taught me several things. One, that God is real and is definitely in charge of the entire situation. And, that prayers can be answered very very quickly if we really need or want something from the bottom of our hearts. Which means, there is never really anything to ever worry about!
My boss proceeded to tell me that the client had to cut back and one of us (meaning me or my partner) would have to leave the assignment. My partner could not believe that I wanted to go. He couldn’t believe that I would give up, what appeared to be, such a golden assignment. But now I knew better.
A New Inspired Life
Soon we left Toronto and when I got back to Houston, I eventually quit that job determined to live the life of inspiration I had written about or Dream Power as I eventually called it. I continue with that journey. There is a lot more to this story and I have written a movie script called “Plan G” where I dramatize it in a really funny and entertaining way. I am currently novelizing the script so I can share it because who knows if and when it would ever become a movie.
I felt that before I could really share the Dream Power message with others I had to put it all on the line and live it myself. The whole thing has been like peeling an onion. I thought I had most of the answers when I wrote those 14 pages, but as I attempted to live my Dream Power I discovered that those 14 pages were but the beginning of a much larger work. I was only at the door and those 14 pages merely pointed the way. I have since written, as you can obviously see, much more. I have discovered that there are many levels and layers to inspiration. That there is a difference between just knowing about inspiration, finding it and living it. I am not going to rewrite the book here trying to explain it all to you. The rest is explained in the book which I now call “The Dream Warriors Handbook” and on this blog. Dream Power has grown a lot from those early days. for more about everything we are doing check out our main site www.MyDreamPower.com
Update January 2014
As we are coming up to the 15th anniversary of that fateful day in Aug of 1999, I thought it would be a good time to give a short update on my life as a Dream Warrior. Well as I said I wanted to live the Dream Power message myself and I have over the last 15 years. It’ has been extremely rough and really fulfilling at times. What have I learned? Well I have learned a lot and that is what I write about on this blog and it’s way too much to cover in this paragraph but I would say one of the main things is that God is a very real force in our lives. That you should not, if you can avoid it, do things just for money. That we must listen to the wisdom of our hearts. So if something doesn’t feel right, listen to that voice and if something feel right listen to that voice.
What have I accomplished? Well I rediscovered my passion for filmmaking which I had squished way way down. On that note I have written two screen plays, shot a documentary on Dream Warriors called Journey of the Dream Warrior, written about ten film treatments. Done two narrative short films called Star Kids and a couple documentary short films. Started a non-profit called the Dream Power Foundation. Taken at-risk kids to four Cirqu du Soleil shows. Written the Dream Warrior’s Handbook (still working on it though). Rediscovered my love of music and animation. Working on a novel called Plan G. Wrote several short stories including one called The Legends of the Dream Warriors. I’ve started this blog Dream Warriors, and taught several workshops on Dream Power. I also have a blog about sci-fi and fantasy movies called Movie What! and a filmmaking blog called Dancing with the Light.
Ok well that’s what I have done so far. The big problem is that money has been a big issue and problem from day one. After I quit that job I continued to do software contracts. I started a computer repair business called The Computer Guys which I sold in 2008. Trying to balance doing my purpose and passion and paying bills continues to be a struggle. I call this stage living as in living your purpose and I have to say it has been the most challenging of them all.
What went wrong on the journey?
Well a lot has gone wrong. I have actually been homeless several times. Not on the street homeless (although we got close once) but homeless shelters and transitional housing etc. I’ve gone totally low income at times too and gotten on welfare and food stamps in the past as well. I’ve been at both extremes and both have their pluses and minuses. I’ve still have my wife and family but it has been a strain on our family to make this journey. But all of my kids are very creative and on track to do their passion and purpose. I think some good lessons they learned is to see life in non-materialistic ways and to realize their creative power and that money, while important to our survival as a creative tool, is not the be all and end all of life. Looking back at everything I can’t say I would not do it all again. Would I have quit that nice job if I had it to do all over again? Yes. I think doing what I would call enabling work (work that is not stressful and supports your dream) is important. I don’t think it’s good to try to force your dream to support you too early which I did with really crazy results. But there were many many miracles along the way which shows me that it’s ok to take risks and to fall and to try new things. God has proven to me time and time again that he will catch me when I fall. So I am a lot more fearless now because I have been to that place that so many are afraid to go and I can tell you without a doubt there is really never anything to fear.
The other issue is I have realized that our passion must meet a need in the world. I believe the energy behind our passion knows this. Ultimately money is love energy. Money is creative energy put into the world in some form. So it’s important to think how can my passion benefit others? The more this is the case the more money will come from doing your passion. Anyway, I will talk about this stuff more on the blog later.
Well at this point I have decided to embrace my entrepreneurial side. Since financing has been a big problem for most of my ideas, my current plan is to start a start-up incubator called Dream Machine. It will help finance the Dream Power businesses and projects such as the Star Kids Movie. We will get investors via a fund to invest in these ideas. I also plan to fully fund the foundation and launch several new non-profit ideas related to Dream Power. I guess the big theme is funding. I realize ideas are great but we need funding to do them. 2014 is going to be the year Dream Power goes big. My goal is to be able to do this and earn a decent living at the same time without selling out the very values I am trying to teach. Will it work? Stay tuned! I will be posting updates on the video blog.
Anyway, I hope you find the Dream Power information as helpful and as meaningful as I have. Although I wrote it, the information defiantly did not come from any conscious part of me. At first I didn’t know where it came from but after several years I have come to the conclusion that it was angelic in nature because that communication continues even today. Not all but many of the writings on this blog were written by that same voice. All I know is that the information rings true for me and it seems to ring true for others. It is definitely still a work in progress though.
I have read “The Dream Warrior’s Handbook” several times for my own benefit, and it has helped me remember my true purpose every time. I definitely believe that I must get this information out to as many people as I can. I believe many people could benefit from it. My challenge has been to stay true to what I have written and not get distracted by fears and the survival concerns of this so-called life. Let’s just say this whole adventure has been a real eye opener for me. I hope it will be for you too.
Well that’s my story, if you want to read more about my journey to not just know inspiration but to fully live it, I share everything I know on this blog. Also, if you have any questions or comments please comment below. If you have a story about how you awoke to your inspiration I would love to hear it as well. In the meantime, take care!
‘Normal’ is getting dressed in clothes that you buy for work, driving through traffic in a car that you are still paying for, in order to get to the job that you need so you can pay for the clothes, car, and the house that you leave empty all day in order to afford to live in it.
It does not have to be this way…
But why is it this way? Why do we keep slaving away at some activity we don’t like? Why? Money? No, money is not the answer! You must understand that money alone will not get you to where you want to be. Stop sacrificing all of your ‘todays’ for some future happiness. You can be happy right now. You don’t have to wait. It’s time to stop letting some dull job or other activity take the passion out of your life. It’s time instead to start living your passion.
First of all there is not such thing as ‘normal.’ Second of all you are not ‘normal.’ You are not your business, you are not your job, you are not your career, and you are not your profession. You are so much more than any dead-end activity that just pays the bills. You are a unique spiritual being, a prince of God, full of the creative potential of the Universe! You are someone who’s perspective the world needs to know about. It’s not about working harder to do something that is difficult. It is about being inspired to do something that feels right! You must understand, that you have been taught that you must earn your happiness. No! It is yours already! There is nothing you have to do. There is nothing to obtain, nowhere to go and nothing to wait for. You already have everything you need. Enough is enough. It’s time to stop compromising. It’s time to stop waiting. It’s time to stop holding back. It’s time for the world to feel your touch! It’s time for your dream to become reality.
You didn’t come to this Earth to waste your life. You came to make a difference. That difference is your dream. No, not that false dream and ambition that you tell people to impress them. No, this dream is what you really want to do with your life when you stop caring about what others think. This dream belongs to you alone. This dream is, your passion, your joy, your love! It is that thing in life that you love to do for the pure joy of doing it. This is your calling and your purpose for being!
So why aren’t you doing it? What is it that keeps stopping you? Why does your dream keep getting put off, put aside, neglected? Whatever you said it was just an excuse! You must push pass those limiting beliefs and do it anyway! It’s time for you to commit to your dream and by doing so you will have made a commitment to yourself, the most important commitment of your life. Does pursuing your dream scare you? Realize that when you are doing what you love all you will experience is pure joy! There is nothing to be afraid of. Living a life without meaning is what you need to be afraid of. You will only find your true power when you start doing what you love. And when you do what you love you will finally find true happiness and abundance. Action is the key. Make time for your dream. The world is counting on you. There is nothing to be afraid of because everything you need and want is within you.
God’s creative spirit powers your dream and is not limited by time nor space and is infinite in its abundance. All you have to do is what you can with what you have where you are today. Start small and take small steps. Trust yourself, trust your heart, act on your dream today, and leave a meaningful mark on the world.
Stage one – AWAKENING
In stage one, we are the restless. We go through life asleep to our true purpose for existing. We feel restless, searching for meaning in the meaningless things of the world. We live a never-ending search, looking for happiness and peace in everything outside of ourselves. At some point, we realize we are barking up the wrong tree and turn within. Many times this will be brought on by a crisis in our lives. Eventually we start to awaken to the idea that we were born to make a difference; that there has to be something more to our lives. We are not just cogs in some machine. We realize that who we truly are is important and that we have something meaningful to contribute to the world, even though we may not know exactly what that something is. It is at this point of awakening that we enter stage two and begin the journey of finding out exactly why we are here and what we are supposed to do with our lives.
Stage two – DISCOVERY
In stage two, we are seekers, determined to discover what is our gift, what it is that we love to do? We start noticing what we really enjoy doing for the pure joy of it versus for money and recognition. Eventually we understand without a doubt what it is that we love to do, and we realize that this is our gift for the world. Once we realize what this gift is, we can enter stage three.
Stage three – INITIATION
In stage three, we are artist, determined to cultivate our gifts and win the battle against our ego and the many inner demons that arise to convince us that we are not worthy, not good enough, or that no one will need what we have to offer. We will deal with issues of survival, and money. But eventually we will defeat these demons. We will begin to understand that there is a larger purpose for what we love to do; that there is a loving higher power that is guiding us; that what we love to do is a necessary and meaningful part of healing the planet. At this point, fears about survival will be washed away by our deep desire to help make the world a better place. We will finally answer the questions: “Why am I here?” and “What am I supposed to do with my life?” When we realize that we are to heal the world with our gifts, we enter stage four.
Stage four – PURPOSE
In stage four–the last and final stage–our life purpose has become clear. It is clear who we are, why we are here, what are our gifts, and how we are to use these gifts to heal the planet. Now our focus shifts from what we can get with our gifts to how can we can give and contribute unconditionally. Now we see that there is much work to be done. No longer do we stand back and feel powerless. With God at our side, and his love in our hands, we boldly jump into the fray. When we give of our gifts freely and unconditionally to the world, we have become dream masters!
What would the world look like if we designed for generosity? Instead of assuming that people want to simply maximize self-interest, what if our institutions and organizations catered to our deeper motivations? This compelling TEDx talk explores this question and introduces the concept of Giftivism: the practice of radically generous acts that change the world. The video is charged with stories of such acts, ranging from: the largest peaceful transfer of land in human history, to a pay-it-forward restaurant, to a 10-year-old’s unconventional birthday celebration, and the stunning interaction between a victim and his teenage mugger. With clarity and insight, it details the common threads that runs through all these gift manifestations, and invites us to participate through everyday acts of kindness — in an uplifting global movement.
Nipun Mehta is the founder of ServiceSpace (formerly Charity Focus), an incubator of projects that works at the intersection of volunteerism, technology and gift-economy. What started as an experiment with four friends in the Silicon Valley has now grown to an global ecosystem of over 350,000 members that has delivered millions of dollars in service for free. Nipun has received many awards, including the Jefferson Award for Public Service, the President’s Volunteer Service Award and Wavy Gravy’s Humanitarian award. He is routinely invited to share his message of “giftivism” to wide ranging audiences, from inner city youth in Memphis to academics in London to international dignitaries at the United Nations. He serves on the advisory boards of the Seva Foundation, the Dalai Lama Foundation, and Greater Good Science Center.
Why don’t we get the best out of people? Sir Ken Robinson argues that it’s because we’ve been educated to become good workers, rather than creative thinkers. Students with restless minds and bodies — far from being cultivated for their energy and curiosity — are ignored or even stigmatized, with terrible consequences. “We are educating people out of their creativity,” Robinson says. It’s a message with deep resonance.
In this talk from RSA Animate, Sir Ken Robinson lays out the link between 3 troubling trends: rising drop-out rates, schools’ dwindling stake in the arts, and ADHD. An important, timely talk for parents and teachers.
Creativity expert Sir Ken Robinson challenges the way we’re educating our children. He champions a radical rethink of our school systems, to cultivate creativity and acknowledge multiple types of intelligence.